My Wife and our Life with Cancer sorry for the lengthy post

So over all my Wife has been doing well, she has had a few set backs, last Thursday she was physically sick, puking and had a bad head ache, she slept most of the day and was feeling better Friday. I am pretty sure her sickness was due to too much medication, she takes 20mgs of Morphine twice per day as well as 10mgs of Oxycodone twice per day, on top of that she took a 10mg Valium in hopes it would help relax her leg and let her sleep, I think it was just too much for her system.

Her left leg has been really bothering her, the most likely cause is fluid build up (there is a medical term for this, and it is quite common, but since I am writing this offline, I can’t look it up),anyway her leg has been bothering her for almost 2 weeks, I did take her to the Doctor and he gave her a couple Cortisone needles with anaesthetics in her leg, it helped her a little bit and on Tuesday she goes for an ex-ray on her leg, just to be sure it is not cancer.

As for her Lung Cancer, so far it is not bothering her, she still mostly just uses her oxygen at night while sleeping, she rests a lot during the day but says her lungs are not hurting and she has no shortness of breath. She has been off Chemo for 5 months now and seems to be doing well, her CT-Scan happens February 4th , we should know the results by the 6th the latest, I am praying that it hasn’t spread further and hope that the Holistic treatments are working to shrink the tumors.

She has remained in good spirits, which is important, she is a strong willed woman who won’t give up, I am pretty sure the main reason she pulled through when the Doctors said notify the family is quite simply her Son “Hammy” , he is her entire world, she was born to be a Mom and a great Mother she is, she loves him more than life itself and that is what I believe keeps her going.

Yes I am sure she loves me as well, but it’s not the same, nor could it ever be, the Bond between a Mother and child is extremely strong and endures through time, and that bonded love is very different than the love and bonds of a spouse/partner, just as I love her and our Son on different levels, it can never be the same, but despite that difference, I’d do absolutely anything for both of them without question.

I’d do anything to have my Wife live to grow old with me, to be there when our son graduates, to be there when he becomes a Cop, to be there at his wedding, to be there to see our future grand children and to help me spoil them rotten, I’d give my very soul if it meant she lives to be old, as it is, none of this will probably come to fruition with her at my side so all I can do is cherish each day that I have with her, to constantly let her know that I LOVE her and will be okay and that I can raise our son to be the man she always dreamed he’d be, all I can do is be there in the here and now with her, there are no more future plans together, it is all down to just one simple day at a time, and I’ll take that if it means she can be here at my side just a while longer.

February 14th will be our 18th Anniversary, I am quite confident that we BOTH will be here to celebrate that milestone together, this year I can’t afford much in the way of a lavish gift, but I do have my Great Grand Mother’s Ruby and Emerald ring, I am taking it to a Jeweler to see if maybe I can do a partial trade on a small diamond ring or maybe just maybe have it turned into a nice necklace for her, I wish I could do more for her but the damn furnace just took too much even on payments, it’s a formidable bill.

I will make her her absolute favorite dinner and our son has volunteered to be our waiter , he will help make the meal too, then her and I will have a candle light dinner after which I will get down on my knee , giver her the gift and 18 red roses and tell her EXACTLY how much I love her, how much she means to me, how happy she has made me all these years and let her know that I have no regrets.

I honestly don’t know how many more Anniversaries I will have with her so I cherish the one coming up now, that’s pretty much my reality now…. just one day at a time, make no plans for the future and hope and pray for the best, I don’t really like the uncertainty of one day at a time,but really….what choice do I really have?

The only regret I have is that Hammy has witnessed the pain and suffering Cancer has caused his Mother, that I couldn’t protect him from seeing his Mom at her lowest point, that last spring I had to sit down on the back steps with him and tell him that his Mother may not survive the night, that she may be called to God’s side in Heaven….. I pray for every person reading this, that none of you will ever have to have THAT talk with a child, it is a very gut wrenching soul searing hard thing to do, to look a child in the eyes and tell them that their Mother/Father/Parent may die. That conversation damned near killed me, but it had to be done, he had and still has the right to know the truth and the facts, to not tell him would be to lose his trust completely, to not tell him would be an outright lie even by omission, to not tell him could have made him resentful, it could and probably would have made him HATE for the first time in his life, and could have led to problems with drugs or alcohol. As hard as it was, I had that very conversation with him.

Like me, Our Son is aware of just how serious this could get, it has changed all our lives, not just my wife’s, Cancer is like that, it infects and permeates around and within everyone who is involved with the person who has the actual disease, it takes over everyone’s lives not just the Patient, all you can do is go on living your lives as best as you can knowing the Cancer is still there and probably always will be, you try and work around it but you can never truly avoid it, it’s always there, just silently watching and waiting, you try to remain positive and even ignore the cancer, still it’s in your worst nightmares,it’s in the eyes of your child when he sees his Mom is not feeling well, it’s inside your head as you change the oxygen tanks and help your wife clean herself, it’s always there, even on good days when your wife is happy and bright eyed and has energy to spare, a sudden coughing spell and the blood on her lips Snap you back to the stark reality of Cancer, like an insidious demon from hell it latches onto entire families and slowly, ever so slowly strangles the life out of everyone.

You beg and plead with your God not to take her away from you and the boy, you bargain you say and do anything to buy more time, just one more Day please please please, just one more day, you fall to your knees and beg for strength and mercy to carry on to be strong for your wife, to be strong for your son, you give false hope, not meaning to or wanting to, you tell her that it’s going to be okay, she just has to stay strong and fight the Cancer, that she can do this and that you will be there every step of the way fighting alongside her, you tell her no matter what happens that you will never give up turn away or stop loving her, you bare your very soul for God and the world to see, your heart is permanently tattooed on your shirt sleeve, you are exposed to mental and emotional pain, you weep when someone you don’t even know dies of cancer, you rejoice when someone you don’t even know survives, you spend hundreds of hours researching alternative medicines and therapies that you might try with your wife, you network like crazy searching out those who have fought or are fighting for their lives against this evil vile disease, you do this without ever being asked, you do it out of love and fear, the love you have and want to continue to have with your wife, the fear , the constant fear of losing your soul mate, losing the only woman you have ever truly loved, fear of becoming a single parent and having to pick up the shattered life of a young son and carry on. Through all this turmoil, you learn quickly to appreciate each day that you have as a complete family,you are grateful and thankful each morning that you wake up and she is there at your side, Tomorrows never come when your living with cancer,today is all that matters.

I’ll stop now sorry for the long post, thanks for your time, Remember folks: express your love often,never take tomorrow for granted, and be kind to others.

Butch.
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My Wife our Son Cancer raw honest thoughts and feelings coping

My wife had a rough night last night, she didn’t sleep well and was feeling pressure on her chest and had to use her oxygen all night, I am worried that the cancer is acting up again. Right now I have her upstairs resting on her oxygen, I check on her every hour to make sure all is well, she is sleeping soundly, I said I would wake her up around noon, but I think I am just going to let her sleep until 2 or 3 pm.

To be perfectly honest…. I am worried and a bit scared, if the cancer is acting up it means many more trips to the hospital and the risk of losing her greatly increases yet again, I am not ready to lose my wife, I am not ready to be a single “Dad”/parent (our son calls me Dad) , I am not ready to explain to a 13 year old boy that God needed his Mom in Heaven, I am not ready to bury her, I am just not ready period.

For the last 2 months my wife has been doing very well, she has been off chemo and living a relatively normal life, though her social life took a big hit, her immune system is so severely compromised that we have had to avoid large crowds and limit who can come over to our house, if you have a cold or flu or any sort of contagious illness then you can’t come in our house, the littlest thing can be fatal to my wife.

For the last 2 months I have once again been able to work a couple hours per night (at a friends bar) and one full day every week (cleaning the local church), the extra work is my escape, for a couple hours at least I don’t have to stare death in the face everytime I look my wife in the eye, her eyes have lost their sparkle and are rather dull, I don’t have to think about cancer or what it’s done to my family, to my wife, it’s an insidious disease, it doesn’t just have an effect on the person who has it, it affects everyone involved with that person, it is always there, relentlessly chipping away at everyones faith and strength.

I look after my wife and family as best as I can, I make sure she wants for nothing, make sure she takes all her meds, make sure her oxygen machine is clean and working properly, make sure she has enough portable tanks for when we have to go somewhere, make sure she eats, make sure she eats healthy, constantly point out the positives in her life and keep telling her just how beautiful and strong she is and letting her know just how much she is loved.

I spend as much time with our son as possible too, and always tell him just how very proud of him I am,that his Mother is also very proud of him, we work on his homework together, he helps me in my shop, and we divvy up the house chores and both do our best, I encourage him to go out and be with his friends, and we play video games together, during the summer we help each other with our work, I am so very proud of him, this last summer our son pretty much ran my entire business on his own while I was away at the hospital with my wife, he did a very good job, I am still getting letters from people saying how impressed they are with our son, they had serious doubts that a 13 year old could do the job, but he proved to them that he could and he was very knowledgeable about the equipment and work, it makes my heart sore with pride when I get a letter like that, that’s our boy! that’s my boy! I shed tears of happiness and joy knowing that I can count on our son when the chips are down.

I also worry about our son, no 13 year old should have to work that hard, no 13 year old should be faced with the fact that their Mother is at some point going to pass on, no 13 year old should be have to be living on borrowed time with their family, no 13 year old should have to grow up that damn fast,

2013 our son was just a little boy fighting for his own life with a brain tumor that was hell bent on killing him, he thankfully recovered from his surgery and thankfully they got ALL of the tumor, then in 2014 our little boy became a MAN , he set aside his own recovery and difficulties and stepped up to the plate and took over my business , and ran it like a professional, he took care of his Family when I could not, he not only worked his ass off managing my yard maintenance business, he worked his ass off at home too, he got a crash course in cooking as he often had to make his own suppers, he got a crash course in house cleaning so his Mother could sleep and recover from her Cancer treatments, he grew up too damn fast and is now forever changed, he will never be our little boy again, he is now our young man, he goes to school, hangs with his friends, but always phones home and asks if we need him for anything and to see how his Mom is doing.

I sit here with tears streaming down my face writing this blog entry, Tears of pride for my son, tears of gratefulness for everyone who rallied behind my little family, not once but twice,tears of sorrow because I fear time once again is beginning to grow short with my wife, tears of frustration because I feel I haven’t done enough, and I really don’t have a clue what else to do for my wife,tears of rage , I am so angry, so very angry that my wife is stricken with Lung Cancer, she has never smoked a day in her life, she is such a beautiful person and doesn’t deserve this, no one deserves this,but least of all her.

When I leave my little blurb at the bottom of my blog express your love often – I mean express your love to those around you, your friends,your family,your partner, your children, I say this always to remind you not to take them for granted that they will always be there with you, let them know how much you love them each day because you never know when they will be taken from you, let them know they are truly loved so they can go peacefully.

when i write never take tomorrow for granted- I mean simply that sometimes tomorrow never comes so embrace each day and live it to your fullest as though it was your last.

when I write be kind to others – I mean friends and strangers alike, rich or poor, we each are hurting, suffering,going through our own hell, a simple smile, an act of kindness towards others can make a world of difference to the recipient of your gesture,unless told we don’t know what is going on in another persons life, sometimes a simple smile an act of acknowledgement an act of kindness means the difference between life and death…literally.

I am not a wise person,I am nobody special, just another human being trying to survive in this world and do the best I can with what I have, I try not to hurt others or myself, I try to do the best I can for my family and friends, sometimes it’s not enough, it’s not enough, but I just keep trying, I try to do my best each day and live my life to the best of my ability, when I do that those around me benefit as well, I keep a weathered eye on the horizon searching out the positives in a negative world, despite my families struggle and strife with Cancer there are positives from it, for it has brought us all closer, it has tested our mettle, it has made me stronger, it has humbled me, it brought me closer to my god, it has drawn me closer to my little family and has made me cherish each day that we have together, I know we are on borrowed time, I am not foolish enough to think my wife is going to be miraculously cured, it has taught me how to suffer in silence and grace, it has taught me how to set an example for our son and others by never giving up.

I am going to stop here and go check on my wife, so you all know the drill :express your love often,never take tomorrow for granted,and be kind to others

Butch
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Ketchup or Catch up

Sorry for being away for so long but as you all know our 11 year old son “Hammy” was diagnosed with a brain tumour November 5th 2012, and had surgery to remove it January 7th 2013, he is recovering nicely, to look and talk to him you would never know that he had recently under gone major surgery, the only effect left from the surgery is the fact that he is partially blind in his right eye. Its his peripheral vision that is affected at the moment, he is in therapy for that and his surgeon says that his vision should improve if not return.

To say things have been chaotic and frantic around here the last few months would be a drastic under statement to say the least. Things like getting wifi or wireless internet out here have been put on the back burner and had fallen into the “things that are not important category” as has repairing the car and van, repairing the house etc, but as the days go by I am slowly catching up on the not important file and getting things done such as home repairs, acquiring a reliable vehicle, getting internet access, catching up on bills etc.

Yesterday I borrowed a friends car and took our son to the city of Regina for a day out together, we went on a small shopping spree , he had saved up enough money to buy a couple games for his PS3, he wanted Black Ops 2 but E-B Games was sold out of that, so he bought himself Modern Warfare 3 and Battle Ship, we forgot to buy a keyboard for my Wifes PC and a battery for her DS thing, ah well next week. We also went to Visions (major electronics store) and I bought a wireless internet stick through Bell and a router so we can run more than 1 computer at the same time online, not that there will be more than 1 online often.

I also went and looked at another car , a 1998 Chevrolet , it only has 78,000kms ( about 60,000 miles) on the motor, the guy wants $1500, I didnt buy it yet, but have been emailing back and forth finding out why he wants to sell it.

I will get my trusty red DORF repaired, its the exhaust manifold that cracked, I have the new one and the gaskets for it but more or less have to wait for spring to install it as it has been minus 45C ( minus 49 F ) just a tad too dang cold to be working on a motor. So the plan is buy another car, repair the red DORF and use it as a spare car.

We have 6+ feet of snow on the ground, and the snow banks that make up the wind rows are almost 12+ feet high, some of the snow drifts in are yard are in excess of 8 feet, it has been a cold snowy winter and when spring arrives the village of Pense is going to flood for sure, I know that our property will be under at least 2 feet of water for sure, thats okay though, I am ready for that, I have spent the winter shovelling a 4 foot path around the house and have a couple sump pumps on stand by, no water will get in the house or the crawl space, the house itself is perched on a foundation that lifts the house a good 4 feet off the ground, the crawl space itself is all concrete and sand, even if water breached the foundation walls, there is nothing in the crawl space that could be harmed, there is no electrical wires there, no furnace, just plumbing and sewer pipes. All I would do is simply pump it out then spread lye across the sandy floor to prevent any mildew or smells, open the outside access doors, put a screen and chicken wire across the opening and let it air out all summer, be good as new when done.

The Sundown Optimist Club of Regina is having its 33rd annual classic car draw, this year they are raffling off a 1968 Ford Mustang, so I bought 50 of them, the money goes to support youth programs so I figured it was money well spent, I dont have a snow balls chance in hell of actually winning the car, my chances are 20 in 46,000 , but hey thats alright. Last year I entered for a 1974 Corvette Stingray ...didnt win that one either lol its like the lottery, I never win but play each week, cant win if you dont have a ticket, its more of a waste of money but its only $6 per week. Chances are slim to non that I will ever hit the jackpots, but through the years I have won $50 here and $1500 there and loads of free tickets but never the “big one” I just play for the fun of it and never expect to win, if I win something , even a free ticket, then bonus, if not, oh well nothing ventured nothing gained play again. I enter pretty much every draw that the village of Pense rec board hosts, and have won various things, from candles to custom pedal bikes and a small sculpture from local artist Joe FaFar.

Well guess thats about all for now , yall have a good day

Butch


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Updates on our Son

Our 11 year old son Hammy was diagnosed with a brain tumor back in Novemeber 5th of 2012, fast forward to January 2013 and he is being admitted to the Regina General Hospital for brain surgery to remove the tumor, the bright side of this is that the tumor is NOT cancer, the down side is it is pressing up against his optic nerve causing occasional vision loss in his right eye and causing him to have seizures. January 7th is the surgery date.

Not much left to say at this point except thank you for the prayers and thoughts, we are praying daily that he comes through this and makes a speedy recovery.

guess thats it for now

Butch
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Our dog Memphis

I think I have mentioned our dog Memphis once or twice before somewhere in this blog,anyway I am going to write about him today.

Our dog Memphis is a Rottweiler German Shepherd cross, both of those breeds carry a bad reputation but let me set the record straight here, regardless of the breed be they rottie shepherd,dobie,pitts,etc, NOT 1 of them are born mean or dangerous! People make them mean and dangerous through abuse and neglect, its not the dogs fault it is the OWNERS fault ALWAYS!!

Take our dog Memphis, he is a mixed breed, he is 160lbs of pure love,an over grown lap dog, he is also a rescue dog, meaning we rescued him from a bad situation and he was to be put down if no one would have him, his crime? neglect and a new human baby on the way and couldnt be trusted...

We have had him going on 4 years now, in that time his hind end has been rehabilitated and is now strong and he is able to walk and run without difficulty ( he was locked in a small kennel for most of his young life prior to us getting him), he has learned to be social and interact with people and other dogs, he has learned to love , be loved, trust and be trusted again, he has play dates with a pitbull, a chihuahua, and a small mixed breed benji type dog, none of which he hurts or fights with, he plays chase and tug of war with them, just generally pals around with them much like a couple 10 yr old children would interact with each other.

here is a photo of our big doofy dog Memphis

He is a fantastic friend and loyal companion, he keeps watch over his family (us) and his property, not a mean bone in his body, would he go after anyone who tried to hurt my wife, son or myself, probably as we are a tight knit close family and he is a big part of that, would he go after anyone trespassing on our property? not really no, he would and has stood his ground and bark rapidly at the person(s), which his way of letting me know that someone is here and I should come see who it is. not many people trespass as Memphis is of a mixed breed both of which have a negative reputation, so that makes his job of watching out for his family easier and less stressful on him.

Did I mention he is great with children and babies, he just stands there when the toddlers pull his tail or ears, he tries to comfort a crying baby by licking away the tears, he plays catch with the teens and pre teens, he pulls our son on a sled in winter and loves to dig in the snow.

During the day he lays contented at my wifes side or sometimes curls up on the recliner, in the evening he lays at my side or at my feet, he sleeps with the 4 cats at night, or rather they hunker down with him, he sleeps in an open large kennel (his security comfort zone) and the cats wander in and curl up on him and around him.

Living on the edge of the village has allowed for us to have plenty of wide open space for Memphis to run and explore ( almost 40 acres) he enjoys chasing the birds and squirrels though he deliberately avoids actually catching them, he stays close to the house when he is out on his own and seldom runs off unless he sees a friend walking down the road then he will run to them for attention and to say hi but he always runs back home.

I couldnt imagine life without Memphis, he completes our family,it breaks my heart to know that there are other deserving animals out there needing to be rescued and given a proper loving home but we cant take them all in , it is our hope that others will step in and rescue these lost souls.

It infuriates me that there are people who abuse and neglect animals or think of them as disposable, people who abuse or neglect animals should face serious prison time, and what ever they have done to the animals should be done to them! people who abandon their animals should face serious prison time or at the very least lose their children for life (if they have any), if they abandon an animal on the side of the road they dont deserve to have animals or children in their care, abandoning an animal is a death sentence.

I may sound harsh, but I have zero tolerance for animal abuse neglect or abandonment, I feel the same way about human children too.

Please help control the pet population by spaying or neutering your pets,and please dont by your pet from a breeder or pet store, please go to your local humane society or spca or animal shelter and adopt your pet there, doing so will save it from death row, every animal just like humans deserve a second chance at life.

guess thats all for now

Butch


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A day at the movies The Conjuring supper and our own Haunting

I finally had a free day, well, afternoon really as I finished up my work at 1 pm so I hurried home,showered and got cleaned up while my Wife was busy baking her wicked Blueberry pies, I changed into my Sunday best (clean levi 501s ,white dress shirt,I zipped back downstairs hurrying so my Wife wouldnt notice, broke out the hair grease (brylcreem) ,then broke out the Stetson Cologne , about that time my Wife figured something was up cause I seldom wear the cologne.

Now my Wife is a natural beauty, she doesnt require make up and has a natural glow about her, I just winked at her as she set the last of the pies on the cooling rack and said, hey wanna go on a date? just you and me (we have the house to ourselves for a week as our son Hammy is away at camp), she scooted upstairs and put on a rather nice pair of snug fitting jeans and a equally form fitting shirt, threw her hair up in a ponytail, dabbed a bit of her flowery perfume and out the door we went, I didnt fill her in on any plans as I really didnt have any , I just wanted some one on one time with my Wife.

We took the HillBilly Cadillac (big Bronco 4x4) cuz hey, thats how we roll out here in the country, we left the family car for when our kidlet is home, besides my Wife totally thinks its hot the way I shift the gears and she loves the rumble of that huge V8, I like to wind it up then take my foot off the pedal causing the engine to growl and rumble like a jake brake, puts a sassy smile on her face every dang time! I seldom use the truck anymore as it only gets about 9 miles to the gallon, and at $1.50 per litre ($6.75 per US Gallon),it usually sits under the oak tree in the back yard, but she LOVES that Beast,so just to make her all that much more happy I damn near broke the bank driving her around in it lol.

So we ended up in the city and I said hey, lets you and I go to the movies (her and I havent been to a movie alone in 12 years,ever since we had Hammy)and as music to my ears she said you pick the movie!! was a tough choice between Pacific Rim or the Conjuring, now Im not always the smartest Butch on the planet, but I do know that high action sci-fi fantasy just doesnt get my wife worked up as they do me, so I chose The Conjuring.

The movie didnt let us down, it wasnt the end all be all scarefest for me, though I did jump when the Demon jumped from the top of a bedroom hutch and pounced on the girl, my wife on the other hand was terrified and between screams would hug my arm tight (I swear her finger prints are permanently on my arm lol) I think I had more fun watching her than the movie lol
The Conjuring is not a movie Id let a kid under the age of 14 watch,though I will NOT be in the same room as my Wifes doll collection alone anytime soon (those things have always squicked me out to some extent).

After the movie we went out for supper, over supper my Wife casually commented that the house in the movie was about as old as ours,and it had a lot of similar features,especially the upstairs, I just nodded not saying much as our house just happens to be haunted, not haunted like in the movies,nothing evil demonic or bad, our house happens to have an old man who walks up the creaky old stairs every night at 2:30 am ,there is also a little boy who frequents the kitchen and sometimes the living room,and lets not forget the grey lady who is usually glimpsed in the mud room and washroom.

We agreed over supper that our ghostly friends are much preferred over the nasty stuff that Lorrain and Ed Warren dealt with, I pointed out that if our dog didnt ever want to enter the house nor the cats, then Id most likely not have bought our house, yes he barks at shadows and the cats sometimes are fixated on a wall, but in the almost 6 years we have been in the house nothing bad has ever happened. I cant tell you where the boy or grey lady came from or why they are here, perhaps they died in the house, the old man is actually Abbys (a friend of ours) Grand Father (or so we think) as he did in fact die in this house.

Our house came with the reputation of being Haunted, we were made aware of this by the neighbours while we were unloading the U-Haul,I smudged the house with Sage and sweet grass that very day lol

anyway thats all for tonight , Ill tell you more about living in a haunted house in the next post,but right now my Wife is giving me that come hither look so Im gonna go lay down my groove thang on her and see if we cant end this night with a sleepy smile on both our faces .

Butch










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A simple little note to God from our 13 year old reduced me to tears tonight

We have our Faith but I seldom talk about it here or anywhere online,and unless someone asks in person, I seldom speak of it, why? because it’s a personal thing , that and there are so many right wing loons who try and shove their beliefs down everyone else’s throat that it makes it difficult for the not so crazy or obsessed over faith or religion reluctant to speak of their beliefs, I just don’t want to get thrown into the fanatic pile (trust me I’m no fanatic) and I believe that spirituality is a personal thing and not everyone believes in what I do so why should I say anything? (and yes I know you Atheists probably think I’m bonkers for even believing….but that’s okay ,I do understand as before the shit hit the fan not once but twice in my family, I to was an Atheist, so I get and understand where you’re coming from)

Anyway, I’m not here to discuss God or Allah or any other Deity , nor am I here to discuss beliefs, you have yours and I have mine, I respect yours so please respect mine that is all I have to say about that.

Our 13 year old son writes notes to God, his prayers really, and usually keeps them safe and private, however one of the cats managed to find his note stash and dragged one out to play with, thinking it was just a piece of scrap paper I was about to throw it away, until I read it ….. here is the short note, unedited only the Dear God in the title and our sons name have been removed.

Dear_____
Let the cancer leave my Mom, let her be safe, let her be strong, cancer is dangerous, my Mom means everything to me and my Dad, cancer must be stopped don’t let the cancer spread. My mom is the best person I know along with my Dad. from __________ Amen

That little note/prayer choked me up, our son doesn’t really talk about his Mom having cancer much, he only talks when prompted and if you ask the wrong question he will refuse to talk about it further.

I really don’t know what to say or what to talk about now, but if you’re wondering my wife is doing well, we won’t really know what happens next until next Tuesday when we see the oncologist, until then we try to live as normal a life as possible.

So remember folks:express your love often,never take tomorrow for granted,and be kind to others

Butch
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Our son is on the mend

Our son had surgery to remove the brain tumor Monday January 7th, I excluded photos of him in the ICU and all the tubes wires and machinery, instead I posted one of the back of his head 5 days after surgery, as you can see he is healing very well, and is due to be released from the hospital Monday January 14th ! he is up and about and happy, the only side effect from the surgery is his lack of balance and he is partially blind in his right eye.

The Dr. says that his balance and vision should come back over time, and will be sending him to the Wascana Rehabilitation Center for physio, all is well and getting better every day! Thank you for your thoughts and prayers, they helped carry our son and our family through this difficult time.

Guess thats about it for now, Take care and God Bless

Butch
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