Family Feud

We moved from Alberta to Saskatchewan about 10 years ago, and for the Last 9 years my wife has begged and pleaded with her family to come down and visit, they always refused, the excuses were many, ranging from “it’s too far” to “our kid doesn’t like long trips” to ” why would I want to come to Saskatchewan? it’s too boring of a drive” to many many more excuses.

Now that she has cancer, her family each take their turn coming down to see her, you’d think this would be a good thing, but it’s not really. They come down to one up each other, it’s all for show, to keep up appearances, so they can say they have seen her and gossip amongst each other.

It’s infuriating ! my wife is more hurt knowing that her family does not genuinely care about her but have made the trip just so they can say they did it, she is happy to see them and it does lift her spirits, but it saddens her to know that the only reason they come here is because she is sick.

When her Mom came down (Foster Mom), she tried to take over the house and run my wife’s life, she took down the window blinds in our living room and replaced them with curtains, she rearranged our furniture, and was quick to condemn the house for being so small (it’s a 1 and a half story homesteader house built in 1910) , it’s a nice house, just big enough for the 3 of us and our dog. Anyway her visit stressed my wife out to no end and made her physically ill. I won’t even go into how stressed I was, suffice it to say her Mom hates me and would stick a knife in my back if she thought for 1 second that she could get away with it.

It just hurts me to know they come here under false pretences, inevitably the conversation they have with me always turns into #1 what is going to happen to our son if the unthinkable happens to my wife, the answer always infuriates them, he stays with me. #2 where are you planning to lay your wife to rest , again, no where, she wants to be cremated and have her ashes scattered here and there,then the questions about her will begin, they are angry to learn that everything is left to our son and myself.

All I can say is Thank God I live in Canada where we are equal to anyone and everyone else and have the same rights as everyone else, my wife’s family has very limited legal chances of winning a case should any of them try to challenge me or her last will and testament, and they certainly can not try to take our son, well they could try but would have no justifiable cause.

We have already lawyered up, and expressed our concerns about her family, our lawyer went through everything making sure everything was legal and notarized my wifes will, he says not to worry , her family doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in Hell should they try any legal action against me, or us, we went so far as to ask CPS to come out and check out our son’s well being and to verify that he is happy, well adjusted, and all his wants and needs are being met or exceeded, they handed our lawyer a very favorable report.

It truly is sad that we have had to take the time to do all this, especially when my wife is so sick, but in the long run it is for our son’s and my own protection against the vileness of her family.
My family has rallied behind us and are ready to help in anyway needed, my wife takes comfort in that and can focus on fighting Cancer and not her family.

Guess that’s all for now, remember folks, never take tomorrow for granted, express your love often, and be kind to others.

Butch
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